What did @motivacion.machin actually say?
The creator's core argument is this: when a man shares his problems and gets ignored or dismissed, he stops opening up. He described this as a man who "mentally checks out" and "emotionally checks out," eventually responding to "what's wrong?" with "nothing" because, as the creator puts it, "the last time I told you, you ignored me." The creator also floated an analogy about women knowing when men are cheating, asking why that same attentiveness doesn't apply to noticing emotional distress. This is relationship advice content, not clinical content. It frames emotional withdrawal as a learned response to being dismissed, and it places the responsibility on the partner to notice and respond.
Does the science back this up?
On the basic mechanism, yes, mostly. The research on emotional withdrawal in relationships is reasonably solid. This is not just folk psychology. Gottman and Silver (1999, "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work") documented stonewalling and emotional disengagement as measurable predictors of relationship dissolution. More directly relevant is work by Kline et al. (2006, "Emotional Flooding and Withdrawal in Couples") showing that men show higher physiological arousal during conflict and are more likely to withdraw as a self-regulation strategy. When that withdrawal is reinforced by a partner's dismissiveness, it becomes habitual. Pietromonaco and Barrett (2000, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology) also found that attachment-related dismissal in early interactions shapes how much people self-disclose over time. So the loop the creator describes, where one dismissal leads to future silence, has a real evidence base behind it.
What did they get wrong (or right)?
Credit where it is due: the general cycle the creator describes is real. Disclosure, dismissal, withdrawal, and then silence when asked later is a documented pattern, not just relationship lore. But there are two problems here worth naming directly.
First, the framing of "an emotional checkout man is dangerous" is sloppy and irresponsible. The creator seems to mean "unpredictable" or "distant," but using the word dangerous without any qualification attaches threat language to a mental health behavior. That kind of language stigmatizes men's emotional withdrawal rather than treating it as a coping response that can be addressed.
Second, the cheating-detection analogy does not hold up. The creator implies women have a kind of intuitive radar for infidelity and asks why that same awareness doesn't apply to emotional pain. These are not comparable. Suspected infidelity involves behavioral cues that both partners are often hypervigilant about. Emotional withdrawal is subtler and both partners, regardless of gender, frequently miss it. Detecting one does not logically imply a capacity to detect the other. This part of the argument is weak.
What should you actually know?
Emotional withdrawal in men is not a character flaw or a manipulation tactic. Research by Levenson et al. (1994, Journal of Family Psychology) found that men's greater physiological reactivity during conflict, sometimes called "flooding," is a real biological phenomenon that makes disengagement feel like the only option. That does not make it healthy long-term, but it means dismissing it as indifference misses the point.
If you are the person who feels unheard, the research supports that naming this explicitly, not during an argument but in a calm moment, is more effective than silence. Timmons et al. (2015, Journal of Family Psychology) found that expressing emotional needs during low-conflict windows improved partner responsiveness over time.
If you are the partner being asked to listen better, research on active listening in couples, reviewed by Weger et al. (2014, International Journal of Listening), shows that even brief acknowledgment responses, not full solutions, substantially change how heard a person feels. You do not need to fix the problem. You need to register it.
Testosterone is genuinely relevant here, by the way. Chronic emotional stress and social isolation are associated with HPA axis dysregulation and downstream suppression of testosterone production (Mcewen, 2007, Physiology and Behavior). Men who habitually suppress emotional expression and withdraw socially are not just relationship-distant, they may be accumulating a physiological stress load that affects hormonal health.